Sunny 9 for 2005 April 4 (entry 0)

(1) Mon Apr 04 2005 18:35 It's in the genes: Aaron was telling me that he was re-reading through some old emails from me to him during our engagement while he was in Alaska and I was in Texas. He said, "Even back then you were bossing me around, but either I just didn't know it or I was so in love I didn't care." I wanted to jump into defenses, but I gave up semi-admitting that I guess I do 'boss' Aaron around, although I may not see it as that, he does. Now I guess he knows me well enough to recognize my patterns; so while he was re-reading through the emails he spotted it right away. I suppose I was not ready for that type of response, rather was hoping and expecting him to say something more like "you were so cute when we were dating...you said the sweetest things to me."

I'd like to think that I don't boss him around, just let him know the things that need to get done while trying to solicit his help. I think I inherited this annoying (to other people) quality from my mom who is the queen of multi-tasking and delegating. In my defense, I did plan my entire wedding by myself and if I did send Aaron suggestions of ways to help, it was for our wedding anyway. You live and learn, I guess I should be more sensitive to others is the moral.

As a side note, Ben Taylor is the epitome of multi-tasking so he and my mom are perfect for each other.

Comments:

Posted by Anne Taylor at Mon Apr 11 2005 04:38

I don't think we are bossy. I like it when people are direct and specific with me. Then I know what I can do to make them happy. Ben is very direct and specific. His ex-wife thought he was controlling. I don't see or experience his directness in that way at all. I always know what he needs and expects. He wants the same directness from me. He goes out of his way to help me and please me. Sometimes I think people who aren't direct and specific are that way just to keep others off-balance; always guessing. One thing's for sure for all three of us, we always give soooooo much more than we ask. Not a bad deal for the people in our lives, I would think.