Sunny 9 for 2006 September 12 (entry 0)

(5) Tue Sep 12 2006 13:27 Slap in the face: Literally, that is what has been going on around here. Today I hosted Midweek's play group at my house. I know Lily really enjoys the interaction and getting to play with friends, but I seriously am so frustrated with her. She made 60% of the children here cry by pulling their hair, hitting them, or slapping their face. I really do not understand why she is so violent. I never hit her, so where is she getting all this from.

I know that the other children were not hitting her. I just don't understand why she expresses herself this way. I am trying to nip it in the bud before the baby comes because from experience with Luke and Austin, she is mean and can really hurt babies. I have tried everything. I have put her in time out, I have tried staying really calm and explaining why we don't hit, I have tried being upset with her and showing her I am mad, I have even showed her in books where someone got hurt and that it is not nice to hurt others, but nothing seems to work. I just don't know what to do.

I mean when your child pulls another girl's hair so hard she has strands in her fist what are you supposed to say? I have just come to the conclusion that kids come with their own personalities and just because some kids are brats doesn't mean the parents are bad. You think your kids will never act like that, but then you have them and they do. I guess I will be the mom of the smallest girl bully ever until we can get this hurting thing under control.

Comments:

Posted by Jenni at Tue Sep 12 2006 15:22

Lily...a bully? heehee...well, my 2 year old is hanging on my last thread of patience today if it makes you feel any better...he has been causing destruction in every place he steps foot in today. Let's just say white out does not come off wood very well--at all!

Posted by Betina at Wed Sep 13 2006 05:17

STRESSFUL! I wish I had an answer for you. You should google it.

I have a friend whose kids used to bite other kids REALLY hard and she finally had to bite him back a few times to show him how it felt.

I don't know exactly how I feel about this on an ethical level, but I have never been in that position as a Mom. I do know that the boy stopped biting.

Posted by Joe Walch at Wed Sep 13 2006 22:10

Lily has been watching too much Halo maybe

Posted by Aaron (Lily's dad) at Thu Sep 14 2006 08:56

I personally think it was a territorial display. She rarely, if ever, has problems in nursery, and is generally nicer when visiting other children's homes. Throw in the fact that she's 2, and I say she's quite normal.

Posted by Kristen at Thu Sep 14 2006 09:19

Hmm, I doubt her nursery leaders would say she never hits in nursery.