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[Comments] (4) Words cannot explain: Today is my last day with the Mags. Today is Susie's last day of work. Monday is my first day as the quote-unquote breadwinner. I'll miss the extra income.

But I'm mostly happy with the decision. We don't really know a lot of people, so basically we'd be paying a stranger to care for Maggie. And it's expensive. How can someone with no past experience or skills charge so much? Maybe Susie should take in someone else's rugrats. But seriously. I refused to consider day care where the child to adult ratio is atrocious. That and I've heard horror stories from so many people about day care. Besides, no one will care for Maggie with as much love as we will. That's not to say there aren't good caregivers out there, because there are. But none of them would love my daughter the way Susie and I do.

My biggest worry is just that Susie will be bored and hot. Maybe in UT, when we have family to help watch Maggie, she can work again. We'll see. Maybe Susie will like taking care of her more the older she gets. I know I've had a blast watching Maggie grow in so many ways. She now can sit up on her own! So cute.

So, anyway, I guess that, even as an accountant, I've realized that there are solutions that involve more than considering the bottom line.


Comments:

Posted by Susie at Fri Jul 06 2007 09:53

hot. Let's call the doctor and ask when we can take her swimming!

Posted by Mom at Fri Jul 06 2007 19:35

When are Maggie and Susie coming to UT for her visit.

Posted by Sumana at Fri Jul 06 2007 23:45

John, you might find this discussion of daycare and home-rearing reassuring:

http://crookedtimber.org/2006/05/04/sue-gerhardt-on-why-love-matters-daycare-revisited/

And I hope you get to spend lots of time with Maggie anyway!

Posted by John at Sat Jul 07 2007 14:05

That was a very interesting article. I agreed with a lot of what was said, but I definitely understand the challenges. Staying home with someone who does not talk my language (but can communicate) is hard, and it's always a toss up going out. Do I stay home being bored and risk Maggie getting frustrated in the house? Or do I risk the heat and the car seat crying for an outing she may or may not enjoy?

And that's where I wish paternity leave was more common. I had no one to hang out with on my leave. Susie at least has a few friends with babies she can get together with. But I, as a man, was not invited to play with them while I was home. But alas most of the men at my job never take advantage of parental leave anyway (some took no time off whatsoever). I'm excited for the day when men and women can share roles without judgment and labels. But I may never see that day in my lifetime.


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